So i was kinda seeing this guy for the past 6 months..and by seeing i mean we had a physical relationship instead of an emotional one.  2 weeks ago, he decides to tell me that he met a girl in the city and really likes her...which is totally fine with me, it wasn't like i was in love or anything remotely close to it, but we decided to have one last sha bang for old times sake. i was left out in the rain and cold for almost 30 mins waiting for him to open the door. i texted, i called i did everything i could do until i had had enough and i left.... 

its now 2 weeks later and he is blowing up my phone and texting me.. and im loving it because i refuse to answer the phone or the texts.... give him a piece of what he did to me that cold night. my plan was working until i, like an idiot, went online and saw someone and messaged them...i didnt know why i did it i just did. it turned out to be him! i ask him how he is doing and he replies asking for a physical favor, which i immediately turn down and i realize its him so i write "wait...[name]?" and he has the audacity to reply "im actually still dating her and cant cheat"... as if anyone asked him to

meanwhile im sitting here thinking, the asshole didnt have the decency to call me or txt me to say sorry for not coming to the door and leaving you out in the cold. and now he is bringing her up? as if i asked...

this is why i refuse to get involved with anyone claiming they are bisexual, most are greedy only wanting what they can get and then once they find the new thing ur last weeks news. and my plan for him was to wait till feb 2011 and then call him and be like "oh hey, its been a while wats up?" cuz by then my body will be "sitting" as a result of me going to the gym..and i feel like i messed that plan up, and i feel like an idiot for even sending him the initial message, i wish i didnt even go online tonight, but whats done is done. im still gonna not answer his calls or texts if they continue [he probably feels as tho ive ben pining over him these 2 weeks, which i havent been btw] i hate losing the control and power of a "relationship"

             As i perused the normal websites this lifestyle has to offer, i took a look at the forums (as i usually do on these things) i came across a post talking about his boyfriend finding proof of his infidelity and was looking for a new excuse to get out of trouble...oh this boyfriend of his was 19yrs old and naive so any new excuse would do...This brings me to my question, when everyone is looking for someone to be with, to share memories and grow with..when you have a good thing going for you, why screw it up? Is it fear, or is it their innate nature to have their cake and eat it too? And what about those repeat offenders like the one who posted in the forum? From the information given by him, this isn' t the first time he has cheated...

        According to an article by John Cloud from "Time" magazine, gay men don't repair relationships as well as heterosexual couples. Because there are so many outlets for men in this lifestyle to find "relief", may it be videos or others looking for a quick fling, they are known to be "partner-independent". In a book on sexuality published in 1969 by the name of  "Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex" by Dr. David Reuben, homosexuals will never be satisfied with just one mate; but will always be on the search for that one person, that one experience resulting in him constantly changing partners. Now mind you, this is an observation made in the late 60's... Times have changed. What Dr. David Reuben believe to be true has been slowly reduced to a stereotype over the years, that many young men in this lifestyle are now living up to. Being young does mean going out and exploring and [safely] experimenting, but to reduce ourselves to creatures led majorily by our baser instincts only derrogatories the goals the community is trying to reach.

      "Pride" events which are supposed to be uplifting gatherings of like minded people to come together as one in celebration of life and who we are as people; now are reffered to as "slut fests" and just reasons for random people to add knotches to their bedposts. Pride , in its original state, is a time to commemorate the lives of those before us who have been arrested and/or died because they refused to be tied down by social "norms" and perceptions. For those who fought for LGBT people to walk down the street holding hands, kiss in public and lead normal lives out in the open. So why do we feel the need to dilute all those efforts and become the  sexual "Diogenes" of society?

....Why?